Moving Out With A Partner – The Pros and Cons!

Happy Monday everyone!

I hope everyone has had a lovely Easter weekend, and has absolutely stuffed their face with choc! I know I have and I actually am feeling pretty rough today (I don’t actually think it’s because of all the chocolate). Luckily, I booked tomorrow off work so I could extend this long weekend and I’m so pleased as I am not ready to go back to work at all!

On with the post…..

I did a twitter poll asking if this post would be something people would like to read, and the response was pretty good and it was a yes! Therefore, I thought I’d write this as something for you to maybe relate to, or maybe as a bit of a heads up if you are planning on moving out.

I remember ever since I had got into a serious relationship, one of the first things I ever spoke about was moving out with them and getting a puppy and living happily ever after. Yes, It’s exciting, but I’ll tell you now, it really isn’t what you expect (for me it wasn’t anyway). My boyfriend and I lived together at his parents house for a while (Thanks Jane and Jeff!) and this was all dandy because like Mum’s and Dad’s do, there was dinner on the table every night, our washing was always clean and we had lots of disposable money. All thanks to them!

Reality is, when you move out and you don’t have these figures in your life anymore. You have to do it. ALL.

So here are some of what I think are the Pro’s and Con’s to moving out with a partner, take them as you wish, but I’ve certainly learnt a lot since July 2016!

Pro’s

  • You get to see them most nights and don’t have to miss them ALL the time!
  • Snuggles, EVERY night without fail
  • You do have someone to tickle your back whenever you want it
  • If your boy/girl can cook, you can have lovely dinners cooked for you most nights
  • If your boy’s a DIY babe, anything goes wrong, then you don’t have to spend Β£100’s on getting someone in to fix it
  • If you’re sad/upset and you need someone to talk to ASAP they’re there without fail, you haven’t got to FaceTime looking like a mess
  • You get your own space where you can be silly and do what the hell you want without parents and other people thinking you’re weird
  • You get to learn about one another and know them inside out
  • You love them more each day and can’t imagine living without them
  • You appreciate how important having your own time to yourself is

Con’s

  • Expect to see boxers on the floor, wherever you go!
  • Don’t expect any help when you have to put the fresh bedsheets on (they don’t like the help)
  • You almost get too used to each other and sometimes take them from granted
  • Wet bath towels get left on the bed to smell the place out
  • The bath does not get cleaned out after use so there are lots of black bits of dirt left to dry on the bottom
  • You end up with limited money to go out and do the fun things you use to do, so you have to make use of time doing something thats free/cheap
  • You have to sit there and watch/listen to them scroll through Facebook watching video after video
  • You may even get moaned at for ALWAYS being on your phone/social media
  • If they do a nice gesture (like cook or fix something) they tend to forget to clear up and leave the place looking like a bomb site
  • You may argue a little more over the little things in life
  • May end up getting slightly fatter as they are always a bad influence (mine is anyway, and he’ll probably say the same about me)
  • Oh and ‘his’ toilet is always a disgusting mess (gross)

LOLLLLLL

I could probably sit here and think of 100’s more points, but these are some of the main ones that stick out for me anyway. Obviously I know everyone’s different and some of you may have angel partners who are just perfect! If so, lucky you, as this shit is hard!

If anyone could think of anything else, let me know, I’d love to hear what you think!

Love, Rebecca

xx

 

20 Comments

  1. 19th April 2017 / 22:42

    Don’t worry – most of your cons are right along with those that you would see for cons on getting married to someone hahaha! In the end the cons outway the pros, and that’s what matters!

    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca/

  2. 19th April 2017 / 17:30

    I loved reading this! It’s so relatable as I’ve been in this position. I tried to move out to Miami to live with my boyfriend for a while, but had to return home in Colorado because he took off for army raining. Nevertheless, I spent 6 months living with him practically and you learn a WHOLE lot about each other!

  3. 19th April 2017 / 16:00

    This is great! I love when people can be open about this. I’m the first of my friends to move in with their partner and I always remind them that’s it’s both the best and hardest thing I’ve ever done!

    Chloe x
    Thengguidetolondon.blogspot.co.uk

  4. 19th April 2017 / 15:06

    Hilarious post. I can totally relate with all of them, as hubby is a slob. Drives me crazy. But I wouldn’t trade him at all.

    Onyi http://www.onyixtus.com

  5. 19th April 2017 / 14:43

    Haha loved this post! My boyfriend is getting his first flat in a few weeks and I won’t move in with him straight away but looking forward to having our own space before I jump in with him. I’ll keep these in mind!
    Claire xo

  6. 19th April 2017 / 14:34

    I totally agree with this myself! Haha especially getting slightly fatter haha as me and my boyfriend always eat to many snacks together with films x

  7. 19th April 2017 / 14:18

    I love this post and your pictures are so pretty! There are definitely pros and cons to living with a boy, its so nice to have someone there to share everything with but they are so messy sometimes! It drives me mad having to pick clothes and towels up constantely!

    Tiffany x http://www.foodandotherloves.co.uk

  8. 19th April 2017 / 13:05

    I can totally relate to this post even though I haven’t moved in with mine yet! Haha! Just from the weeks he’s spent with me on holiday or whilst I’ve been at uni! Loved this post! X

    Victoria | VictoriaaHelenn

  9. 19th April 2017 / 13:01

    PAHAHA this made me laugh. I only moved in with my boyf of 5 years 2 months ago and its been eventful to say the least. I brought my dog with me who cried none stop for 2 weeks flat missing home, needless to say i joined her most nights. It was so difficult at the beginning with silly bickering arguments but the pro’s def outway to con’s once settled. It’s the scariest thing I have ever done, and I think I am still living in a lull thinking its like uni and i’ll eventually go home home again. Weird. Lovely relatable post.

    http://www.hellosaralou.blogspot.com
    xx

    • Rebecca
      19th April 2017 / 19:15

      Ah I’m pleased this was relatable! We bought a puppy after like 2 months and we were up most nights together with him as he was crying, he really tested our relationship, but now its much better. xx

  10. 18th April 2017 / 10:32

    I can so relate to this post!! And oh since moving out some of the things we have argued about haha, pathetic little things!!x
    Nicoleannx.co.uk

    • Rebecca
      18th April 2017 / 12:16

      It’s crazy isnt it! Wouldn’t change it though πŸ™‚ Thanks for reading x

  11. 17th April 2017 / 18:31

    Such a fun post!! I like to think I’ve half experienced living with my partner when he’s come to visit me at uni.. definitely makes me excited for when we have our own place!xx

    Lucy x | lucy-cole.co.uk

    • Rebecca
      18th April 2017 / 12:16

      Ah I’m glad you can kind of relate! Yes it is good fun, but hard work haha x

  12. Leanne Saunders
    17th April 2017 / 16:37

    I love this post!! me and my boyfriend are currently in the process of buying a house and my god its stressful but I know it’s all going to be worth it at the end and I can’t wait for it to be just us

    Leanne | http://www.oohsimplething.blogspot.co.uk

    • Rebecca
      17th April 2017 / 16:53

      Yay! Congratulations, it is one of the most stressful things in life apparently but once you’re in it is really good x

  13. 17th April 2017 / 16:36

    Loved this post! I’m currently living at my boyfriends mums house and it’s great for having extra cash for holidays etc but privacy is a bit limited! I can relate to all of these points though xx

    • Rebecca
      17th April 2017 / 16:52

      Ahah glad you like it! I probably would go on and on but I had to limit myself πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ

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